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If we can’t change the justice system, we can at least encourage more people to be like the two Swedish men on the bicycles that night.To speak up, stand up and do something when men are making a woman feel uncomfortable by joking or catcalling, or worse grabbing or harassing. I’m not sure where this is going, but I have lived here long enough that failing to say something is not an option anymore.
As I walked passed him and in one quick swoop, he reached his hand under my dress and grabbed my ass.
He was really into the idea of becoming a father and promised me that he could support me financially for the first six months and his large latin family would be over the moon to help with their first grandchild.
The seduction of a big supportive family was enough for me. Skip forward 7 months and I was fleeing Guatemala in the middle of the night with a van load of stuff, over the border into Mexico to birth my daughter alone.
People at home often blame his latin-ness on why he abused and ultimately abandoned us.
But, to tell you the truth, many latin men take care of their kids, pride themselves on family and willingly step-up to the plate to pay for their children.
So I buried my anger and made a point to walk on the opposite side of the street when possible and to not wear a dress any more.
But I know now that asking women to change what they wear or what they do is NOT the solution.
If anything, I felt he was an entitled western brat like so many men I left behind in Canada land. While I was pregnant, we stayed together at his insistence.
I was vulnerable and isolated having few friends with children, and after quitting my job teaching yoga due to my largeness as a pregnant woman, he was my best friend and my partner in this journey. I was suddenly obsessed with my partner’s actions, his social media activity. But I was acting like someone living with an addict – behaviour I am familiar with having loved substance abusers in the past. He was always telling me it was in my head when I asked about the women he flirted with online, why there were so few photos of us – even as friends. At the end of August, I started to hear rumors of infidelity.
In light of the bravery of the anonymous victim and her demand for justice, my mind has been swirling with how do we respond as a culture when women are continually shamed into silence and then often blamed for sexual assault. Women are so used to being catcalled while walking to their cars or through the market that most have stopped paying attention.
If this is true in the United States, than it is ever more true in Guatemala. I have heard men yell obscene and offensive comments at Guatemalan women, and foreigners alike.
I’m not naive enough to think I can change an entire culture or system that is heavily bent toward machismo and an unjust criminal system, but I can be part of changing the conversation we have around women and men and sexual assault.