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AA does not suggest or recommend that any member place any aspect of their lives on hold for any predetermined amount of time or for any reason.It's a lie that comes from people that feel an overwhelming need to say something but haven't read the book or followed the program. The actual 'caution' that this idea evolved from, came from some early 'rehabs' where it was SUGGESTED: "No 'MAJOR CHANGES' in ones first year of sobriety unless something was affecting that person's sobriety." ie No job changes, unless the job was making it really hard to stay sober. Old Timer AA's of the that era heard this and saw the common sense in the phrase and started using it: "No 'MAJOR CHANGES' in the first year of sobriety." Somehow most of that has been lost to NO DATING or NO RELATIONSHIPS the first year.

One thing I'll say is that be ready for some emotions you haven't felt in a while sober. I've been in and out of the program for quite a while.I personally never agreed with some of the rules and suggestions.Just because you're sober doesn't mean a relative won't pass away in the first year or that you won't lose your job in the first year. Hey Jay, Those sayings may be around AA and whatever, but they did not originate from within AA.Those sayings and "rules" come from rehabs and detox centers and whatever else, but not from AA.No moving from one resident to another, unless the current living arrangements were putting sobriety into jeoparady. I M H O the reality is that the first year IS EXTREMELY HARD on most of those serious about recovery, and diverting one's concentration, or diluting one's concentration with all the potholes of dating, and/or a new relationship divert us from working on ourselves.

Now you sound like the majority of those I have worked with, still 'wanting to rebel in some way' lol and will end up doing what you want to do, lol Think about it some more please.

But dating is an event that you choose for yourself, not one forced on you like losing a job, death/illness of a loved one, etc.

Why would you want to make things harder for yourself deliberately?

I was totally wired after going out on my date and I felt a lot of old stuff come up afterwards.

I got through it with help from here, but it was the first time in a long time I felt like drinking for some reason.

I didn't drink and it made me stronger and more confident in the end, but it was the first time I dealt with some of those emotions sober in 20 years and it was a little hard to handle at first. Like many things in AA, the admonition not to date or make major changes in the first year is based on something that makes sense: the idea that in early recovery folks are still whirling around and need to take some time for themselves to regroup. Also, marriages, existing committed relationships, and children can't just be shelved for a more convenient time.