From abusive household to dating violence

04-Nov-2017 01:24 by 4 Comments

From abusive household to dating violence

A study of these behaviors commissioned by the AAUW Education Foundation in 2001 found that 8 out of 10 students experienced sexual harassment at some point in their school lives.The AAUW Education Foundation (2001) study defines sexual harassment in this way: In the past many institutions have had a somewhat casual attitude about sexual harassment understanding those behaviors as harmless flirting, or as “kids being kids”.

They have not had a lot of evidence to make them believe that we could help them.

There are fewer legal protections as well as fewer services available to minors through domestic violence programs.

Domestic violence programs are not able to provide shelter to minors who have not been emancipated and shelters cannot guarantee confidentiality to minor victims who disclose abuse as they are able to do with adult victims.

According to the organization that you work with, you may have particular expectations for the expression, degree and boundaries in relationships between the youth that you serve, but if the kids that you work with feel like you’re simply the relationship police, they may not hear concerns that you have about the health and safety of their relationships.

Here’s a great healthy relationship definition from the Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance (2009): A significant majority of students report experience of sexual harassment.

P&C wheel NO As we mentioned above, while providing youth with information about abusive relationships, it is essential to contrast those behaviors with information about healthy relationships.

The teen equality wheel below is a helpful tool for depicting the spectrum of supportive, respectful, trust fostering behaviors that young people can expect in their relationships.

is a pattern of actual or threatened acts of physical, sexual, financial, verbal/emotional abuse, sexual or reproductive coercion, social sabotage, and/or sexual harassment perpetrated by an adolescent against a current or former partner or a person with whom the teen has some kind of intimate relationship.

While it’s necessary to educate young people about the warning signs and impact of abusive relationships, it’s at least equally productive to talk with them about relationship rights, respect and the dynamics of healthy relationships.

We recognize that sexual harassment creates a hostile environment for the kids who are victimized and that these behaviors may be a precursor to teen dating or sexual violence among perpetrators.

Again, we’re not against flirting (we’re actually fans), but you might want to talk with the kids you serve about how they can flirt in ways that feel safe, mutual and respectful.

By incorporating conversations about TDV in your work and by listening to what young people have to say about their feelings and experience of abuse, you can create a culture of trust where young people feel that they have something to gain by disclosing their experience.