Start dating a friend
Start dating a friend
A good friend is loyal, supportive, understanding and shares the same interests as you.
When I set out to explore this question for this piece, one of my own stories kept coming back to me.After a particularly bad breakup, I was re-evaluating my past choices in boyfriends and felt like I was missing something.In the midst of dramatically labeling the entire male race as untrustworthy and deceitful, my thoughts turned to who I could trust.It’s not worth risking your friendship if you aren’t completely sure of what you want out of pursuing the relationship.If you’re hearing phrases such as: “You’re like a brother/sister to me” or “I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship” or if your friend is asking advice on another person he or she is attracted to, you shouldn’t even think about dating the friend because chances are your friend doesn’t share the same romantic feelings for you. You both should be going into the new relationship hoping for serious results.” I realized then that what I really wanted in my other half was compatibility in values, interests, and personality (which by then I knew my friend and I had). Diana Kirschner agrees that compatibility is the best thing about dating your best friend.
In the words of Kirschner, a relationship expert, psychologist, and author of Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps: “You can have it all in one package: friendship and romance.” In fact, many girls admit this combination is what makes dating a best friend so appealing—given your closeness and familiarity, you’re already halfway to a solid romantic relationship.Sometimes this won’t be a bad thing, perhaps you’ll feel more comfortable knowing that you tried and you’re better as friends.The key to avoiding the awkward post-breakup relationship is to have an open and honest conversation before you’re involved about the implications of the relationship not working out.The advantage of entering a relationship with a friend is that you’re already comfortable around each other and you’ll bypass any awkward stage that most new couples go through.You most likely have similar interests, are in the same social circles, enjoy the same hobbies and you already know the other person cares about you.“You’ve already taken that time to figure out that you’re compatible with each other,” says Winnie*, a 22-year-old recent college graduate.